Monthly Archives: May 2016


Investing In Self Belief

Part of investing in you is believing in SELF. That belief allows you to move forward always seeing your end vision even in the face of turmoil. Without the investment of belief in what you are wanting to manifest for your life, your thoughts will become obscure. If you don’t have enough of what you need invested in “SELF” to bolster your belief in the final outcome, you can only use what you got. If you have more negative emotions in your reserve pool, that’s what you’ll act on. And of course that’s what you’ll manifest. The question for today is “What does it look like, feel like, sound like, smell like or taste like to invest in your belief in self?


Reframing How To Use Conflict In Your Life

Conflict in our lives has a greater purpose than just making us feel confused and or miserable. It creates in the forefront of your mind the need to look at contrasting and or opposing forces within a situation. Conflict supports you in recognizing that: 1) You don’t like what’s happening 2) You want something different 3) You need to look at your options 4) You must make a choice Reframing how you view conflict to 1) Acknowledging authentically that YOU…not anyone else, but YOU don’t like what’s happening. 2) Begin exploring your options by asking yourself, “what is it that I want to happen regarding this situation?” 3) Step into the answer that you have given to what you want to happen by using your 5 senses: What does it feel like? What does it look like? What does it […]


The Drivers Seat In Your Car Is For You

In order to be able to drive a car you need to learn the basic fundamental so you and your vehicle and the people around you will all arrive at the desired destination safely. It’s necessary to know how to stop your car in enough time not to cause a collision or to be able to avoid one. Knowing how to steer your car and keeping it on the correct course so you can get to your desired destination is a must. All the while as you are driving you are observing the road conditions giving you the opportunity to course correct…whatever that means, for you to get to where you want to be safely and in the time frame that you specified. Part of being able to consciously use the Universal Laws of Attraction effectively is understanding that you […]


It’s Not My Fault This Happened To Me

Everything in your life has come to you via choices that you have made. In fact during lectures and talks, when I have stated this fact people have walked out, become downright hostile, hurled angry words at me or burst into tears. All of them in their own way are saying, “that’s not true. I didn’t do anything!” My response to that is simple, “Oh! So you don’t think so?” Here is an interesting short experiment for you to try which will support you in seeing YOUR truth of this fact. Throughout my life when I would bitch, whine, moan, cry and complain, bitterly about an injustice that I felt had been perpetrated against me, much to my annoyance, my Mum would always ask the same question.  “What did you do!?”  WTF! LOL!  I didn’t actually say that to my […]


Entrepreneurs Don’t Waste Time On Your Competition

In 1997 I was a newbie entrepreneur producing customized skin care it was easy for me to get caught in the trap of trying to keep up with the big cosmetic houses.  In order for me to compete, I felt that I had to emulate them in every way.  I was also running at breakneck speed desperately trying to keep pace with what the experts predicted to be the next emerging industry trend. I locked into a self-induced battle between what I was wanting and what market research told me I must do.  Using this research I chose to take a large loan out and spend thousands of dollars on graphic design and product packaging. When I opened my first delivery of my new packaging all I could say was wow!  I was ecstatic, because now I felt like I […]


Stop Complaining About Everything

When something goes wrong, it’s easy to get sucked into a self created vortex of negativity.  Complaining to any and everyone who provides a sympathetic ear.  This type of behavior allows a small situation to spiral out of control.  Moving from a negative headspace to a positive one takes a few simple steps that requires a willingness to have an honest and authentic conversation with self.  The self-talk is based on a method of intrinsic questions that are designed to quickly and efficiently get people into a new and positive headspace under their own steam. And provide tools to stay there.  The questions are created around the following 8 tips/concepts listed below. Being open to having an authentic and intrinsic conversation with self Validation of your feelings Keeping your feelings your own: Ownership Letting go of controlling other people’s feelings […]


Things That Support You In Achieving Your Goals

The concept of a product, organizer or digital device supporting you in establishing better goals and reaching them is can be a tall order, if, certain preliminaries are not in place first.  It’s like Duncan Hines selling you a supreme ultra moist chocolate cake.  If you don’t have a understanding of your role in the process and all that you need to do to make the cake a reality, the mix is going to remain in the box and or at the very least you’ll be extremely dissatisfied with the outcome. It’s easy to say I want to lose weight.  But the goal when expressed like that is too large, it’s to ambiguous.  The questions that beg to be answered are, “How much weight? Do you want to do this with diet or just exercise?  Or both?  Do you want […]


I’m Sorry But; Isn’t An Apology It’s An Accusation

What happens when we don’t communicate effectively there is disintegration and undermining of understanding, which leads to irrational behavior.  When cooler heads prevail or hindsight is the new view finder lens an apology can be made.   This is where it can and many times does go radically wrong again. One of the most important things that any couple can do when apologizing is OWN their feelings. This isn’t even about owning up to what you or they have or have not done.  Let’s face it; for the most part, all parties are aware of what’s gone on.  It’s not like it’s a surprise. Let’s dissect it this way. When someone says “I’m really sorry that I shouted like that, but, you always make me so mad!”  There are three things that are fundamentally wrong with that apology. Shifting the blame […]


The Potpourri of Life and The Universal Laws of Attraction

Click link to join us live http://bit.ly/potpourrioflife or call in on 646-727-2759 In today’s show we are using the Universal Law of Divine Flow to guide us and be in the moment. We’ll be talking about choices, energy, addictions, holistic healing, health, medication, entrepreneurism, nutrition, meditation and how this all rolls into the Laws of Attraction In Action and what that can mean for you. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we explore the potpourri of life.


Aromatherapy Diffusion In A Confined Space

January 2016 at day care in Idaho, fire fighters were called out because the director of the center thought that the children and staff where suffering from carbon monoxide poisoning. What had transpired was an overdose of essential oils.  Can that happen?  Oh yeah it can; particularly if people don’t know how to use the oils safely. As a master aromatherapist, I have seen a rapid increase in incidences like this one. When using essential oils in confined spaces, such as a car or room without ventilation or poor ventilation or even a room with a mass of people, it is vitally important that the right essential oils be used. Within such confine spaces, it might be best to use the more volatile essential oils or e.oils with top notes. This basically means that they dissipate very quickly.   Also, having […]