Good morning Attractioners,

 With every experience that I have had, I truly set my intention and attention to learning something from it. Even if that something is I never want to do that again. I’m able to do this with clarity of mind, because I give myself 100%, total permission to experience every ounce of emotion that I’m feeling.  I ride that wave.  And I run that gauntlet.  I don’t deny myself my expression.  And neither do I spend time judging my emotional outpourings.  That doesn’t mean that I actively choose to play the blame game, or the if I wouldha, shouldha, couldha mind game, even when those emotions rear their head.  And they do.  I don’t judge myself for that, but I do consciously exercise my right to choose what I do with my emotions, based on how I want to feel.

The nuance here is, I get to choose if those are mind games I want to play and Attractioners, so do you.  Believe me when I say, it can appear easier to choose to play mind games with self and others, when you are actively engaged in a very tense and emotionally charged situation.

 However, it doesn’t serve you well if that isn’t your desired end game.  It won’t serve you because the repercussions, or the reaction, to your action taken, simply isn’t worth the energy it steals from you.  Energy that could be spent on manifesting the things that you want in your life. 

Instead of trying to change something that cannot be changed, consciously choose to move past it or let it go.   That’s right, anything that has already happened in your life cannot be undone.  You can only move forward from there to what it is that you are wanting to experience.

I said all of that to say this, no experience, no matter what it is, will allow you to lose your way. The pathway you walk down may be scary. No, I take that back, it may be downright horrifically frightening, dark, twisted, dank, lonely, and confusing, to name but a few.  Yet with all of that, you will never ever lose your way.

At the end of the day, it’s a pathway.  And if you walk it; if you choose to walk it, that pathway will always lead you to a place of greater understanding of self and others.   Attractioners, I’ve had enough experiences in my life to know that this journey can take moments, as in an ah ha moment. Or it can take days, weeks, months, even years.  So whatever choices you make for you, you will never get lost along the way to your ultimate destination. And that’s getting to know the ever evolving you.

Blessings, Dr. Wendy Dearborne