Over the last 3-4 years we’ve heard a lot about self-care, which personally, I believe is long overdue.  It’s brilliant, because it has given people “guilt free” permission to have an existential experience, by advocating for self, to explore meaningful ways to nurture self..

Like all things in life, there is a part of self-care that isn’t what I’d call ‘warm and fuzzy’, and yet, it’s an integral part of the process.   It can be hard, gut wrenching and painful.  Yet, beyond the pain, the discomfort, and even disapproval given by others, or more than likely yourself, there’s freedom and liberation. And with the self-liberation is a new page or chapter eagerly awaiting you to pen the next step in your extraordinary journey, called life.

I said all of that to say this, part of self-care is letting go of people within your life. Yup, I’ve been down this road many times before, but it’s true, there are people currently within your circle who bring nothing to your life that’s good, and you give nothing to their life that’s good. 

They take up mental, emotional, physical, psychological and spiritual real estate.  Real estate that could be used to focus your attention and intention on manifesting what you really want for your life.  As unfortunate as it may seem, some of the people that need to go fall into the up close and personal category…and that can be hard.   

Just so we are on the same page.  This isn’t about cutting people out of your life, unless that’s what works best for you. It’s not about denying your love, time and attention.   It’s about you not choosing to ALLOW them to influence you in ways that you perceive as negative.  It’s about you learning to say no, and or yes, and being okay with them choosing to be unhappy about your decision.  It’s about you, creating boundaries.

 And for all who are familiar with my work, you know that boundaries are all about you being able to experience your world the way in which you want to.  Boundaries are not about keeping people out.  It’s all about you advocating for a safe place and space for you to have your existential self-nurturing experience.

Blessings to you and yours,

Dr. Wendy