And So It Is Attractioners,

As today’s meme suggests, any attempt to help someone, whether through intervention or coercion, in the long, medium and short term usually fails to get the ‘lasting’ results hoped for.

Before you can do something for anyone, they must want it for themselves first. Don’t confuse this with them knowing how to attain what they are wanting. That’s a totally different ball of wax.

An intervention or coercion that is successful, is successful because the person being intervened on or coerced, intrinsically wanted a pathway to achieve a specific goal that they had set for themselves. Not a goal that was set for them by someone else. Understand the nuance here. They wanted the change. And chose what that change should look like for themselves.

People will say yes to, you fill in the blank. There are a myriad of reasons why people do this, yet they do it all the time. People give lip service to doing things instead of soul service. Just because their lips are saying yes or no, doesn’t mean that their subconscious self is on board. It doesn’t mean that their intrinsic belief is in alignment with what they are agreeing or disagreeing to. So ultimately, it won’t work.

Before telling someone what is best for them and what you want them to do, try asking these simple, yet powerful questions. And before I get to the questions, let me first say this. I am not negating anyone’s ability to look from the outside of any given situation and give a fair assessment. And that assessment really boils down to “chances are, if you keep on doing X: Y & Z will happen.

Where this type of assessment falls short for both parties, is that you both don’t have any skin in the game. All you have are two thought processes, which aren’t in alignment. It’s like a train derailing as it leaves the station. Chances are it’s not going to reach an intended destination.

So, the questions to ask are, “What are you wanting for yourself in this moment. Just you. No one else, but you. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. It’s all about you. What is it that you are wanting for you in this moment, this now?”

LOL! And for all those who know me, don’t you dare roll your eyes when I ask you to please, “paint me a picture of what that looks like!”

Blessings,
Dr. Wendy Dearborne