Most don’t realize that the change they are wanting to see in that person must start with themselves.  Or put another way, the change you want to see must first start with you.  And yes, I can hear you saying, “Wait!  What!  I’m not the one with the problem.”  Okay, I’ll bite.  You don’t have the behavioral issue, but you do have a problem with “their” behavior.  This is what I call understanding the nuances of life.